Caring for Someone With Alzheimer's
A Family Guide to Understanding, Supporting, and Planning
Dear Caregiver,
Caring for someone with Alzheimer's is a meaningful journey, but it can also feel overwhelming at times. And that’s okay.
It’s important to embrace moments of connection while also acknowledging any feelings of frustration that may arise. At Anthem Memory Care, we understand the unique challenges you face and are here to support you every step of the way.
This guide is designed to help you understand the progression of Alzheimer’s disease so you can confidently navigate the path ahead.
As the disease progresses, your role will naturally shift from offering emotional support and gentle reminders to taking on more responsibility for daily care, personal needs, and medical decisions. This requires immense strength, patience, and compassion.
While caring for your loved one, it’s equally important to take care of yourself. Caregiver burnout is real, so be sure to prioritize rest, healthy habits, and activities that bring you joy. Leaning on local or online support networks can also offer valuable guidance, comfort, and support.
Trust yourself, take things one day at a time, and never hesitate to ask for help when you need it.
With heartfelt support,
“It’s not just forgetting where you put your keys. It’s about forgetting what keys are for.”
- Dr. Tam Cummings
Alzheimer’s disease is a form of dementia that gradually impairs memory, thinking, behavior, and, eventually, daily function.
Recognizing Alzheimer’s symptoms early allows caregivers to plan and secure support services before the disease progresses. It also eases anxiety for those affected, helping them understand what’s happening and maintain independence for as long as possible.
Watch: The 5 Questions All Families Need to Ask About Dementia. Speaker: Tam Cummings, PhD.
"Families who understand Alzheimer's are better equipped to provide compassionate care and reduce stress for everyone involved.”
- Dr. Tam Cummings
This guide aims to help families dealing with Alzheimer’s feel more confident and less overwhelmed.
Anticipating future needs reduces emotional and financial stress, allowing caregivers to provide informed, compassionate care.
This guide provides practical tools and advice to support caregivers in their daily roles, including emotional care and self-care tips.
Watch: What Is Memory? Free Education Webinar by Dr. Tam Cummings.
“Tracking the progression of Alzheimer’s using structured stages helps caregivers anticipate future needs and make informed decisions.”
- Dr. Tam Cummings
The Global Deterioration Scale (GDS) is a reliable tool that tracks the progression of Alzheimer’s disease across seven stages of cognitive decline. It helps healthcare providers tailor their treatments and support your loved one’s healthcare needs every step along the way.
Watch: Understanding the Different Lobes of the Brain. Speaker: Dr Tam Cummings.
No noticeable cognitive or functional issues. The following lifestyle changes may help delay symptom onset:
At this stage, your loved one is independent and not showing noticeable cognitive decline. No direct care is needed at this time
However, it may be helpful to begin learning about Alzheimer’s and available resources, so you’re prepared if and when needs change.
Medical History and Physical Examination
If your loved one has a family history of Alzheimer’s or dementia, it’s a good idea to talk with their healthcare provider. Reviewing their medical and family history can help identify potential risks and guide early screenings and preventative measures to support their long-term health.
This proactive approach helps you stay prepared as a caregiver.
Cognitive decline is minimal, but your loved one may become frustrated or anxious about their minor memory lapses.
You may notice subtle but manageable memory lapses. Emotional support and reassurance are key to helping your loved one feel more at ease during this stage
Does your loved one use sticky notes to help them remember routine information? Take this quiz to find out if it’s dementia.
If your loved one is diagnosed with stage 2 Alzheimer’s, your loved one should undergo one or more of the following cognitive and neuropsychological tests to identify subtle memory changes and establish a baseline for future care. These allow you to understand the progression of Alzheimer’s and plan for your loved one’s care needs:
Does your loved one use sticky notes to help them remember routine information? Take this quiz to find out if it’s dementia.
You may notice increased frustration with memory lapses and a tendency to withdraw from social activities and relationships.
You may offer more support with daily tasks while also managing the emotional challenges that may arise. Start thinking about a home healthcare team to support you and your loved one.
Quiz: Is it Still Safe to Drive?
In stage 3 Alzheimer’s, the following tests can help assess cognitive function:
The following assessments can evaluate and identify functional decline:
Is It Still Safe to Drive?
Does your loved one have trouble finding the right words? Take this quiz to see if it’s time for memory care.
Completing daily tasks independently becomes harder, leading to anxiety and frustration. Maintaining personal hygiene and routine may require more help.
You will take on more responsibility at this stage, assisting with ADLs and other tasks. Emotional support is crucial as confusion and disorientation increase. Consider hiring a home healthcare team to support you and your loved one.
Note: Many caregivers experience stress and fatigue in this stage. Practicing self-care and exploring support options is highly recommended to avoid burnout.
Monitoring brain function and behavioral changes is essential for understanding your loved one’s needs.
Common Stage 4 assessments include:
The following assessments can evaluate and identify functional decline:
Does your loved one have trouble finding the right words? Take this quiz to see if it’s time for memory care.
Implications for Loved Ones and Caregivers
As memory loss progresses, your loved one may struggle to recognize family members or remember personal history, leading to confusion, frustration, and anxiety.
You will need to offer ongoing assistance with daily tasks, but your loved one may resist, requiring frequent Alzheimer’s care plan adjustments. This can be emotionally taxing, so remember to prioritize self-care and seek additional support when needed.
At this stage, you and your loved one will likely have an Alzheimer’s care team in place. They may recommend one or more of the following:
Watch: Communication Tips in Dementia Care Presented by Dr. Tam Cummings.
Implications for Loved Ones and Caregivers
Your loved one may no longer recognize family members and struggle with basic motor skills like walking or eating.
Providing 24/7 care is crucial at this stage. The emotional and physical demands can be overwhelming as you manage severe symptoms, which may include aggression or agitation. Your loved one may now need specialized Alzheimer’s care from an experienced team of certified dementia providers within a compassionate, assisted living memory care community.
At this stage, several assessments are commonly used to understand your loved one’s needs and to guide care planning:
Watch: Free Dementia Webinar: What Does That Behavior Mean? Presented by Dr. Tam Cummings.
Implications for Loved Ones and Caregivers
At this stage, your loved one will require 24/7 supervision, either in-home or at a residential memory care community. They may be unable to communicate or recognize others, and all daily activities will need assistance.
As a family caregiver, you will face deeply emotional challenges, including making end-of-life decisions about advanced medical interventions. The emotional strain can be overwhelming, which is why finding the right support team for you and your loved one is essential.
Watch: Supporting End-of-Life Care
“The death rate for the dementia family caregiver is three out of 10 die before the person with the dementia dies and that is due to the stress of doing care”
- Dr. Tam Cummings
When Is it Time to Make a Move to Memory Care?
If your loved one is experiencing significant memory loss that disrupts daily life or if caregiving has become overwhelming, it may be time to consider professional memory care services.
Signs of significant memory loss may include:
Read: When Is it Time to Make a Move to Memory Care?
Planning for your loved one’s memory care needs allows you to explore care communities, understand your options, and make informed decisions without the pressure of a crisis.
Touring communities and having early conversations help ensure a smoother transition when the time comes, and high-quality, compassionate, and dignified care for your loved one.
Learn More: Empowering Your Decision: A Guide to Touring a Memory Care Community
Talking about memory care with your loved one can be difficult, but open conversations can help them feel heard, respected, and supported.
Depending on how far their Alzheimer’s has progressed, monitor their body language, and if they appear anxious or agitated, gently change the subject. These conversations are best to have in stages 2-3, when they can still help plan their future.
At Anthem Memory Care, our compassionate staff takes the time to truly know each resident—their likes, dislikes, and interests—honoring who they are and who they once were. Our Pathways of Purpose philosophy focuses on building meaningful connections to enhance your loved one’s health and well-being.
Find an Anthem Memory Care community near you to explore our services.
Empowering Your Decision: A Guide to Touring a Memory Care Community
A familiar environment and personalized routines can provide stability and ongoing comfort to your loved one.
Caregiver burnout, necessary home safety modifications (and associated costs) can create emotional and financial burdens for caregivers and their families.
Anthem Memory Care provides a safe, compassionate environment with 24/7 supervision, specialized activities, and a trained staff who genuinely understand each resident’s unique needs. Our Pathways of Purpose program focuses on enhancing your loved one’s well-being through life-enriching activities like music, therapy, pet visits, reducing family caregiver burden, and offering compassionate and dignified respite care when needed.
Find an Anthem Memory Care community near you to explore our services.
Anthem’s Memory Care communities offer social interaction, professional care, and the support that family caregivers need, ensuring your loved one’s dignity and happiness are prioritized.
Survey: Can I Afford Memory Care?
Can I Afford Memory Care?
“In families of people with dementia…they go through these stages over and over and over again because your loved one continues to decline as the disease progresses. This decline can be so severe that you may feel like your loved one has already passed.”
- Dr. Tam Cummings
If your loved one is experiencing a loss of communication, difficulty swallowing, or a significant decline in quality of life, it may be time to explore hospice care. While Anthem Memory Care does not provide hospice services directly, we partner with trusted hospice providers to ensure compassionate support during this difficult stage. These providers focus on pain management, emotional well-being, and helping your loved one remain as comfortable and dignified as possible.
Caregiving is an act of deep love, but it often comes with its own set of emotional challenges: guilt, stress, anxiety, grief, and isolation. The weight of those feelings can sometimes feel overwhelming, especially when you’re concerned about what the future will bring.
What many caregivers don’t realize is how caregiving can negatively impact your health. Chronic stress can weaken your immune system, increase your risk of anxiety and depression, and take a toll on your overall well-being.
Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. Practicing self-care ensures you can keep offering the love and care your loved one needs.
“It's normal to feel overwhelmed. Seeking support from caregiver groups or professional counselors can help navigate the emotional strain.”
- Dr. Tam Cummings
It’s always okay to ask for help.
Watch: Compassion Fatigue and Caregiver Stress What Every Caregiver Needs to Know by Dr. Tam Cummings
Download a Personalized Care Plan to track your loved one’s Alzheimer’s care needs and have critical information at your fingertips in case of an emergency.
We understand discussing end-of-life wishes is very difficult, but it can help make things much easier when the time comes. Respecting your loved one’s wishes ensures their care aligns with their values and honors their dignity.
Exploring long-term care insurance options can offer peace of mind as you navigate the future. These policies can provide financial support for non-medical care services for your loved one.
Advance directives, like a Living Will and Healthcare Proxy, help ensure your loved one’s healthcare wishes are respected when they can no longer advocate for themselves.
Having a Power of Attorney allows you or someone you trust to make crucial decisions for your loved one, especially in times of need.
Get started with this easy, step-by-step guide: Alzheimer’s Association—Plan for Your Future
Get started with this easy, step-by-step guide to plan for your future.
Caring for someone with Alzheimer’s can feel overwhelming, and that’s okay. At Anthem Memory Care, we are here to support you with personalized, compassionate care that honors your loved one’s dignity and unique story.
Our dedicated teams take the time to truly understand your loved one—their history, interests, and preferences—ensuring they feel engaged and valued every day. Our expert memory care programs provide more than just high-quality Alzheimer’s care. They provide peace of mind for you and your family.